We feel fortunate to have met, and worked with, some truly great leaders. We have also worked with some leaders who were not that great and we have also worked with people who definitely should have been in leadership roles, but were not.
We hope that we are good leaders but we know that we are continually working on it!
So the question we are asking is, when do you become a leader?
Leadership cannot be assumed because of title, the number of people reporting to you, or just because you think you are a leader. Just because you were promoted, it doesn’t automatically make you a leader.
At Occam’s Edge we believe that leadership is based on behavior driven by values.
Being a leader isn’t a matter of title or position. It is much more about how you treat others and how you engage with them. Therefore, the art of becoming a leader is to look at and examine your behaviors and values.
From our experiences and recent research we have identified five key behaviors that all leaders should develop and demonstrate.
Authenticity and Empathy
Good leaders ensure their words and actions are consistent with their values and beliefs. They are good listeners, communicators, and treat people with kindness and respect.
Being authentic is not just about happy conversations. Good leaders are also adept at being candid and delivering the tough messages with directness. They are also comfortable admitting they were wrong or unfair. They understand the power of ‘I’m sorry’ when they’ve made a mistake.
When in the company of authentic leaders you can feel their motivation and desire to be genuine. You can see that they are trying to do the right thing. It’s very obvious. Vice versa, when you feel that someone is trying to pull ‘the wool over your eyes’ that’s obvious too.
Communicating and connecting
Being able to communicate and connect with people is a key behavior of good leaders. They focus on getting to know individual team members on both a personal and professional level. They are genuinely interested in your well being and will seek to understand your strengths and weaknesses, your goals & ambitions. Good leaders simply care about your success.
Good leaders set direction and provide the guidance for others to succeed. Once the direction is set and if new facts or information come to light they are quick to adapt. They not only communicate the necessary changes but they also explain the reasons behind the change in direction.
Good communicators take time to listen, really listen and respond.
Handling tough conversations
Typically we see the tough conversations fall by the wayside people are either ill equipped to navigate or more importantly they just think the problem will go away.
After all, who likes to have an uncomfortable conversation?
However strong leaders know how to have the uncomfortable conversations openly and directly. They are skilled at managing conflict. They show up prepared to bubble up the tough issues and be the facilitator who allows the discussion and debate to take place so that teams can come to agreement and alignment.
They are adept at facilitating in a positive and non judgmental manner.
Trust
Leading a team requires a sense of shared understanding and mutual trust. Good leaders develop teams that are made up of people who mutually respect and trust each other.
Leaders spend time to connect with their teams, develop a shared understanding, and through working together develop trust.
This is done in good times and in bad with equal measure.
Remember that trust is earned not given, but once it’s earned it’s priceless.
Talent development
Good leaders develop talent. They are always focused on your personal and professional growth. They teach their team members in two ways.
First they model the behaviors they want their staff to demonstrate. As human beings we copy or mimic positive behaviors that we want to emulate. We do this almost subconsciously. Good leaders walk the talk and practice what they preach.
Second good leaders don’t just tell you to go do something, they show you what they need, why they need it, and how they’d like to see it. Yet they’re open to alternatives. They are your coach, your mentor, and your cheerleader. They help you become a more collaborative, capable individual who understands how to make choices, decisions and influence outcomes.
As opposed to simply barking orders at team members, great leaders look for teachable moments and use those moments to help develop others around them.
They understand that the guidance people actually need is often not what they want to hear. Telling people what they want to hear is easy. Great leaders help people unpack what they need and take time to be aware of their challenges
Conclusion
Whilst there are many behaviors that drive good leadership you can start with our top five or select your own. Either way we think you will be glad to see how you and the people around you evolve as you continue on your leadership journey.
Why did we pick these five? Because we think they make you a good person too.
We’d love to hear from you? Do these behaviors resonate with you? What other behaviors and values would be in your top five?